Boudoir for Moms - Rocking the mom bod

I get it, I’m a mom. My body changed and no matter what I do to get back to my pre-Leo-and-Eli shape, it doesn’t seem to happening.

What I’ve done or tried to take care of my mom bod after babies

  • lifting weights

  • running around my neighborhood

  • cutting out starches

  • cutting out wine (that one didn’t last long)

  • HIIT workouts from a book

  • adding protein

Y’all, it’s exhausting! I run a business and take care of two little ones who are not in day care. I don’t do a great job of taking care of myself. I thank God every single day for caffeine.

But I want to show you the BEST thing for my confidence and the love of my mom-bod. I have boudoir photos taken regularly… as often as I can afford it.

I booked couple’s session with Boudoir Coterie in California after my first child. CJ and I were getting to a point where we weren’t spending enough time as a couple, aside from parenting.

I had Adeana Marie Boudoir take photos of me in Vegas when my oldest was 2.

Most recently (after my 2nd was about 9 months old) I flew my favorite photographer, Jennifer Williams, to Paris for a dream photoshoot in a GORGEOUS hotel.

Before each of those photoshoots, I wanted to lose ten pounds.

Did I? Nope!

Did it matter? Nope!

So what does this have to do with you? I want you to rock your mom bod. Whether you’re curvier, droopier, poochier or somehow you’ve gotten into the best shape of your life, celebrate that beautiful strong mom bod.

Check out a few gorgeous moms!

Each of these women was super nervous about their shoots. Aren’t they beautiful!?

It's not once-in-a-lifetime after all!

Meet Jessica (I’ll use her real name because she’s proud of these photos).

She became a client years ago and has continued to work with me over the years (twice flying across the country just to be photographed).

Let me tell you about Jess over the years I’ve known her.

2011

She had just graduated from college. She wanted photos while she was young and cute. Her shoot was over-the-top and a little wild. The kind of wild that comes with being 22.

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2012

Jess was coming into her sensuality. She was learning what it meant to be a woman rather than a girl. She exuded confidence in a way that said, “I don’t need to impress you.”

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2013

This was J’s first shoot where we got her completely nude. Honestly, I think it was the first time I was brave enough to shoot nudes. I have those in the studio. She is so lucky to have captured her figure at this stage.

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2014

Bridal boudoir! Recently engaged, she wanted a gift for herself (and her amazing husband-to-be). We did get a more traditional shot, but I think this one shows off the woman she was going into a marriage. Strong, fierce and sexy.

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2015

Inspired by the ANGELS book by Russel James.

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2016

We actually brought out the lucky groom for a vintage-inspired engagement shoot. Yes, it escalated into a little bit of boudoir… as my shoots always do.

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2018

We missed our annual shoot because I was living in Albuquerque and she was in Georgia. But when she had an opportunity to fly out here, we grabbed it.

How amazing is she in this?!

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2019

It could not bring more joy to my heart than to do Jessica’s last photoshoot in her 20s. Oh and I got to photograph her just before her baby will make its debut.

I plan to visit her in Georgia next year to capture her and her little one.

Jess, you are going to have the most loved child. You are one for great adventures and this will be your biggest yet.

Shop your own closet for boudoir

One of the biggest concerns for a boudoir photoshoot is

What do I wear?!

I’ve got great news for you…. the perfect wardrobe might be hanging in your closet right now.

At the Lavish Boudoir studio, our photoshoots run about 90 minutes (although I often run over-time when I’m having fun). This allows for 3 wardrobe changes + white sheets. So that starts us off easy.

OUTFIT #1: Nothing at all, but draped in our white sheets.

OUTFIT #2: A sheer and clingy t-shirt/tank matched with boy briefs or CK undies

OUTFIT #3: A black bra and panty set or bodysuit

OUTFIT #4: A slouchy sweater over a pretty bra and undies

Tada! No fuss wardrobe without spending a dime.

If you book with Lavish Boudoir, we’ve also got some amazing pieces for borrowing in our wardrobe. If you’d like to check them out, come on by the studio for a tour!

Loving on a single mom.

Miss T had been on the fence about a boudoir photoshoot for ages and just hadn’t pulled the trigger. When I asked for women who would be wiling to sign a model release and full artistic control in exchange for a session discount, T was one of the first to apply.

I think it was the makeup-free photo in a Hogwarts sweatshirt that sealed the deal for me. She had these huge glasses covering these sparkling eyes. Her insanely beautiful red hair and porcelain skin just added to her beauty.

She honestly didn’t say much in her application. Some women spill their guts, but something in her photos spoke to me.

When I met T, there’s this warmth to her that makes you feel like you’ve always been friends. She mentioned her son and her eyes lit up. She told me about moving here from Houston. She told me about the new job she was hoping to take. She told me about her best friend whose name is tattooed on her wrist.

Being a single mom is not easy. But she never once had a single negative thing to say about it. Her strength and quiet confidence made her so easy to photograph.

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When I photograph a woman, I want to see the emotions in her. I learned from a mentor a long time ago how powerful it is to put women in touch with these emotions. We are so often going through the motions of life, that we don’t stop to recognize what we feel. When we are allowed to do that, and then it’s captured on camera, it is so freeing.

An emotion that I’m not particularly comfortable with is vulnerability. So I rarely photograph it it. I prefer confidence, joy, desire, laughter, flirtation… anything but vulnerable.

But that day, it spoke to me. Because I’m pretty sure that T doesn’t let herself get vulnerable too often. I’m sure she’s built up her confidence and to let some vulnerability show is uncomfortable. I didn’t realize how often I captured her throughout the photoshoot in this way until I went through the images to share here. But she makes it look beautiful, right?

T, you are just an amazing young woman and I am so glad you sent me that 2-sentence e-mail to model and the photo in the Harry Potter sweatshirt because girrrrl, you rocked this shoot and I loved being your photographer.

Boudoir Goggles:

I see the women in the world through boudoir goggles.

Where she sees a messy ponytail, I see a woman who is too busy kicking ass to spend time pushing her hair out of her face.

Where she sees thighs that rub holes in her jeans, I see curves and feminine beauty.

Where she sees crow’s feet, I see someone who laughs so hard her face squinches up.

Where she sees short, I see petite.

Where she sees awkwardly skinny, I see leggy.

Where she sees a soft tummy, I see a body that created a human.

When a woman talks to me and tells me she could never do a photoshoot because of (enter one of thousands of excuses here), I want to just shake her and prove that

1) She’s exaggerating her insecurities 5-fold so that they take on a life of their own.

2) She is enough, she is beautiful. Her femininity is aching to be recognized.

3) She deserves to be served. She deserves to receive the energy that she lavishes out to everyone else.

I see all women as these amazing humans with superhuman potential and incredible beauty. It’s such a privilege to capture that with my camera and I never take my role for granted. It’s my job to guide you to recognizing that beauty in yourself. Even when you’ve got a messy ponytail, shadows under your eyes, and jeans that won’t quite button that day.

If you’re ready to see yourself through boudoir goggles, please allow myself or another experienced photographer show you who we see.

Or send a quick e-mail to receive more information:

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