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One of the biggest concerns for a boudoir photoshoot is

What do I wear?!

I’ve got great news for you…. the perfect wardrobe might be hanging in your closet right now.

At the Lavish Boudoir studio, our photoshoots run about 90 minutes (although I often run over-time when I’m having fun). This allows for 3 wardrobe changes + white sheets. So that starts us off easy.

OUTFIT #1: Nothing at all, but draped in our white sheets.

OUTFIT #2: A sheer and clingy t-shirt/tank matched with boy briefs or CK undies

OUTFIT #3: A black bra and panty set or bodysuit

OUTFIT #4: A slouchy sweater over a pretty bra and undies

Tada! No fuss wardrobe without spending a dime.

If you book with Lavish Boudoir, we’ve also got some amazing pieces for borrowing in our wardrobe. If you’d like to check them out, come on by the studio for a tour!

The Scientific Reason You Should Book a Couple's Boudoir Photoshoot


Scientific? Yup…well sort of. I'm not a scientist, but I do know a thing or two about the subject.

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Have you thought about the couples boudoir photoshoot idea? Yes... then ready on for why. In short, it’s amazing and can really spark something in a relationship.

Have you ever watched the Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise? About midway through the season, they push the participants waaaay out of their comfort zones together. They do this to fast-track the bond that has to be created within the course of a few weeks for filming. Whether it’s repelling from a tall building, crossing a rickety suspension bridge or stripping down in front of a virtual stranger, you’ll have this adrenaline rush. When it subsides, you’re flooded with endorphins and oxytocin. You look into your partner’s eyes and you associate all those good vibes with him. Tada... true love... or something that feels like it.Boudoir photography ideas for couples | Lavish Boudoir™ | Albuquerque, NM

I have a funny little rule for my couple’s shoots: NO KISSING!

You’re probably thinking that sounds really strange for a sexy photoshoot. The reason is two-fold.

  1. It keeps everything in check. I’m not an nc-17 kind of photographer. There are no sexual acts in my photoshoots. Just lots of seduction. This leads me to my second reason
  2. Seduction is the most gorgeous kind of intimacy between a couple. It’s the longing to touch, taste and quite frankly… get busy, that brings out those gorgeous photos.

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If you look through my photos, you won’t see an actual kiss. Lots of almost-kisses. Do you know how sexy it is to be millimeters from her lips and not be able to follow through? Your heart is pounding, your hormones are flooding and you ares so ready to take your lover home and have your way.

Remember I mentioned those happy hormones? Those are unleashed through your body every single time you look at that photo. You brain sees those photos and you are transported back to that moment and those feelings.

Put a beautiful print on your wall and experience that fire every single day.

Some of the highlights from my favorite couple’s boudoir photoshoots:

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How to make choreplay even hotter - Lavish Boudoir


Studies say choreplay is sexy...

WTF is choreplay? In a study called Egalitarianism, Housework, and Sexual Frequency in Marriage, Kornrich, Brines & Luepp, basically found that couples who stick to a more traditional division of chores have sex more than couples who take a more gender-bending approach to chores.

Now, I am all about equal effort to take care of a house and home, but I do think it's sexy as hell when my husband remembers to take out the trash every night and mows the lawn (preferably shirtless) on the weekend.

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But here's what I think is the best choreplay... hiring someone else to do it and spending that time connecting. Sometimes that means an hour sitting on our butts watching Shameless. But it usually means we are not too damn exhausted to want to hug, hold and get it on.

We live crazy busy lives and I bet you do, too. Whether it's a demanding job, busy children or even a dedication to a special organization... I bet your days feel like there are never enough hours, let alone sex.

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We still do the daily tidying up, the cooking and the resulting cleanup, and we definitely need to scrub our little boys nightly. But a team of dedicated professionals come and turn my pigsty into a palace. It takes me 2 hours of prep work to tidy, but it means that while they're doing the heavy cleaning... I'm playing with my youngest, serving clients or doing something that I am much better at (seriously, I've been told I'm actually bad at the skill of cleaning). They can accomplish in two hours what would take me at least six.

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So on Thursday night, I cook, my husband cleans the kitchen and I scrub my littles. We cuddle up on the couch, look around at our lovely home and just relax. That is the best foreplay in the world.

So grab a feather duster, put on something sexy and get dirty.

Photos & Makeup by Leslie Cersovski (Albuquerque, New Mexico)






Great things never came from comfort zones


Get out of your own damn way because...

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Great things never came from comfort zones!

If you've been in our studio, you know this popular pose is quite uncomfortable, but it's sexy as hell. We all have our comfort zones.  It's where we live from day to day. They're great in a lot of ways.  We feel safe, they keep us happy, but they also leave us a little unfulfilled.

My personal comfort zone issue is approaching strangers (particularly women).  Whether it's making new friends at a party or approaching a beautiful woman whom I would like to photograph, I'm terrified. Like heart-racing-adrenaline-pumping-queasy-stomach terrified.  Yup, I'm a big wimp.

So how about this... let's do something today that scares us! I promise you that I'll approach a stranger **shudder** and you'll commit to doing something that is way outside your comfort zone.  Deal?

If you feel like sharing what it is, comment below.  Maybe you'll inspire someone else.  And maybe, just maybe, something GREAT will happen.


I did it!  You'd think I'd at least set myself up for confidence and success, right?  Nope. I actually completely forgot about my challenge because all I wanted to do was buy some freaking tulle from Hobby Lobby without losing a child and/or my sanity.  We all survived (with the help of some Skittles) and headed to Target.

It was meant to be.  I got in line, paid for my cart of 10 things I didn't need plus the 2 things I did, and realized I forgot diapers.  Back into the depths of Target I go with a fussy newborn and hungry toddler.  Back in line again, this woman in front of me was speaking to the checkout clerk with such animation.  She's a beautiful woman, but what caught my attention was her zest for life, for conversation and for being "real."  I had to photograph her.

So I wimped out of speaking to her then and there because I was afraid the Target employee would yell at me for solicitation (really??? this is what my mind will do to get me out of speaking to strangers).  So I hurried as quickly as I could through the line and told myself that if she was in the parking lot, I'd introduce myself.

She was... about 10 cars away and about to hop in her car.  So I started waving my arm (only one because the other was carrying Eli) frantically.  She gives me the nicest smile you could ever give a crazy lady and waves back.  So I hold up a finger, hoping that signals her to wait.  She amazingly gets the hint.  So I introduce myself and tell her that I would love to take her portrait.  She's totally psyched and gives me her name and number.  I haven't tried it yet, so maybe it's a fake.

Then it hits me... I'm wearing a scrubby t-shirt, my hair is in a messy ponytail and my makeup is limited to last night's mascara smudged under my eyes.  My eyes widen in terror.  I quickly point out that this is my emergency-run-to-Target attire and ask her to dismiss it.  She was so sweet about it.  She has 4 kids, so she gets it.

Anyway, I didn't realize until I was in my car that I had held up to my deal just in time.  And guess what, I didn't die and I didn't even throw up.  At the very least, I'm proud of myself and if all goes well, I'll have an amazing portrait session to show for it.

Ready to step out of your comfort zone? Check if we have the perfect date for you here.



New Year... New You


Actually... how about you fall in love with the you that you already are?  You're important, you're deserving, you're lovable. Every January we stop and reflect (i.e. think about all the things we want to change).  Some of us want to lose weight.  Some of us want to be more giving.  Some of us want to be more learned.

I'm all for self-improvement (I have a small addiction to that section of the book store), but I 100% believe that the most important improvement you can make is to love yourself NOW.  Literally now... like this second.  Even if you're wearing stretchy pants, drinking your second glass of wine and flipping through US magazine.  You know what... that sounds like a person I could love!

Go look in a mirror (put some mascara and real pants on if you like) and tell yourself:

"I'm beautiful. I'm smart. I'm generous. I'm worthy."

Repeat as necessary.


What will you wear for your boudoir photo shoot?

We know it can be completely overwhelming to select lingerie for your photo shoot.  You want to look hot and feel like a million bucks.  Unfortunately there aren't a whole lot of local options in Albuquerque or Valdosta.  We LOVE shopping online for lingerie for the following reasons:

  • Variety of styles and sizes
  • you can try it on in the privacy of your own home
  • most stores offer free shipping and free returns
  • many stores have online reviews, so it's like shopping with 100s of BFFs

I have a list of favorite stores that I send out to my clients when they book,  but I wanted to do something for every woman who is considering a shoot with me or anyone else.

I will be updating this Pinterest page monthly (around the 1st) with my favorite pieces from around the internet.  I'll be weeding out the ones that are no longer in stock.  Don't you HATE it when you click a link in Pinterest and it doesn't actually go to the shopping info?  Ugh... I'm still searching for a lbb that I saw on there.

So go on and follow my board for sexy ideas to suit all sizes and styles.

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