How to make choreplay even hotter - Lavish Boudoir

Studies say choreplay is sexy...

WTF is choreplay? In a study called Egalitarianism, Housework, and Sexual Frequency in Marriage, Kornrich, Brines & Luepp, basically found that couples who stick to a more traditional division of chores have sex more than couples who take a more gender-bending approach to chores.

Now, I am all about equal effort to take care of a house and home, but I do think it's sexy as hell when my husband remembers to take out the trash every night and mows the lawn (preferably shirtless) on the weekend.

But here's what I think is the best choreplay... hiring someone else to do it and spending that time connecting. Sometimes that means an hour sitting on our butts watching Shameless. But it usually means we are not too damn exhausted to want to hug, hold and get it on.

We live crazy busy lives and I bet you do, too. Whether it's a demanding job, busy children or even a dedication to a special organization... I bet your days feel like there are never enough hours, let alone sex.

We still do the daily tidying up, the cooking and the resulting cleanup, and we definitely need to scrub our little boys nightly. But a team of dedicated professionals come and turn my pigsty into a palace. It takes me 2 hours of prep work to tidy, but it means that while they're doing the heavy cleaning... I'm playing with my youngest, serving clients or doing something that I am much better at (seriously, I've been told I'm actually bad at the skill of cleaning). They can accomplish in two hours what would take me at least six.

So on Thursday night, I cook, my husband cleans the kitchen and I scrub my littles. We cuddle up on the couch, look around at our lovely home and just relax. That is the best foreplay in the world.

So grab a feather duster, put on something sexy and get dirty.

Photos & Makeup by Leslie Cersovski

The perfect gift for him.

Christmas 2016

The perfect gift for you husband, boyfriend or lover is a gift he can't get for himself. There is something so perfectly unique about giving him a gorgeous folio filled with the sexiest photos you've ever seen of yourself. The gift will be so much more perfect than you can even imagine.

Top 5 signs he'd love this gift from you:

1. He loves you in lingerie
2. He loves you out of lingerie
3. He dives into the Victoria's Secret holiday catalog before you even get a chance.
4. He's told you he thinks your hot as hell.
5. He's a man... who likes women, but REALLY likes you.

How to style your holiday boudoir photoshoot:

• Choose lingerie that lends itself to the holiday spirit, but isn't too costumey.
• Jewel tones are spectacular on all skin tones from the fairest porcelain to the deepest cocoa.
• Add some twinkle lights.
• A furry blanket adds warmth and texture... and feels nice against bare skin

Fun ways to present your boudoir photos to him:

• Wrap it in a deceptive box. For example, wrap it in a boxer brief box and tell him you got him something sexy.
• Buy a red velvet stocking and hang it on his bed post.
• Dress up in your favorite lingerie and strut out to "Santa Baby" with the beautifully wrapped gift. Tell him he can't unwrap you until he opens his gift.
• Count down the 25 days of Christmas with one photo every day. Start mild and get to wild.
• Use the 12 days of Christmas to leave hints

You read to thrill him?

1. Decide if you'd like to do the photoshoot by yourself or with 1-3 friends and make a day of it.
2. Check our availability by clicking here.
3.  Call Leslie at 866-930-7060 and press 1 or e-mail Leslie@LavishBoudoir.com for full pricing and to start planning
4. That's it! Easy peasy. We'll take it from there.

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Beauty is in her DNA

Talk to your daughter about beauty and boudoir

I firmly believe you should talk to your daughter about beauty and what is "sexy." I photograph a lot of moms and grandmothers. I know.... they all look so hot, right? It's a miracle what the proper pampering can do for a woman's mojo. Anyway, I digress.

I also sell A LOT of wall art for these ladies, but it isn't usually what they're inclined to buy right off the bat.

Here's my typical conversation in the boudoir photo sales session:

Miss Hotty-Pototty-Mommy: Oh, I love my photos. These albums are just so gorgeous.

Miss Mostly-A-Mess-From-Shooting-All-Day: Yay! Let's take a look at the options I have...

[blah blah blah, long process of deciding on the perfect cover because there are soooooo many pretty covers]

Miss MAMFSAD: Okay, which photo is your favorite for hanging on the wall? Wall art is offered in these super elegant frames.  Do you want something knock-his-socks off sexy to start the day or a bit more subdued and implicit of sexy?

Miss HPM: Oh [blush] I don't know if I could put one on the wall! My kids would see!

The first time I told a mom to show her boudoir portraits proudly:

The first time I really remember this conversation was with one of my friends who finally became a client. She has a daughter who was gradeschool age. This daughter is so precocious and has the most beautiful freckles. She'll probably grow up to look just like her mommy, who is growing up to look just like Heidi Klum.

She had actually purchased the wall art, but texted me in a panic afterward. She hadn't thought about what her daughter would see.

But I think she still hadn't. Her daughter was nosediving into tweendom and before she knew it, this nail-polished, knee-scraped, life of the party would hit puberty. Someone would tell her she's not pretty enough, smart enough, tall enough, tough enough or say something else was lacking. We spend a lot of time reinforcing to girls that they're super smart and talented all these other things that we fear girls don't get told enough. We should always keep those compliments coming... no doubt about it.

Show a girl she's enough

We've become afraid to tell a girl she's pretty enough. As if being pretty negates all the other wonderful things about her. But she'll wonder at some point in her life... and the answer is always, "You are."

I believe that when a young girl sees her mom as a beautiful work of art, she sees her own reflection. I believe that you can tell your daughter, "Look how pretty mom is, and how confident she is, and how nice this photo makes her feel. You'll grow up to look just like me, and I bet you'll be even prettier."

Point out her magical smile, her captivating eyes, her life-of-their-own curls. Those things make her pretty, certainly much more than pretty enough.

Now give her hug, tell her she's smart, talented, driven and pretty... anything in this whole world can be hers.

Maybe seeing that beautiful portrait of mom will remind her that beauty isn't an age, a size, a shape or a color, that her beauty is right there in her DNA.

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People have been asking how long I've been a boudoir photographer... and I surprise even myself when I say 6 years.  Holy cow. That's a long time.  I knew basically no one, but I needed a portfolio. So I dug around on some modeling websites and found A.  We had a collaboration with Randi Buchanan (makeup artist) and decided to go for it. She was the first model for whom I started coaching emotion. Not only was she aaaaadorable, but she was so sweet and totally trusted me. That might have been when I knew this genre was for me.  Thank you, A, for trusting me and being my guinea pig. I still love these photos, even though it's 6 years, and 3 studios late. 

Why you need a luxurious folio box in your life...

Boudoir Folio Boxes

"Hi! I would love to have a boudoir photoshoot done and I think I want an album to give to my husband."

That's how 99% of my inquiries for my studio start.  But what she doesn't know is that she really wants a folio for herself and a gift album for him. Don't worry, we have you both covered. You're going to fall in love when you see our products in person, but for now...

So what's a folio box? Updated for 2017!

What's inside a folio box?

It will make you swoon. Each of your expertly retouched and printed boudoir photographs is mounted in a beautiful custom cut mat. Each is presented as its own art piece.

Those mats are carefully enclosed in this nubuck-wrapped handmade folio box.

So what do I do with it?

Anything you want.  The matted photos can be framed for the wall, displayed bedside on an easel, tucked discreetly in the box so it's like opening a present every day, or you can even gift a print to someone else (particularly great when you have a beautiful g-rated portrait for your mom or daughter).

I still want an album...

Absolutely. This is about you and we want to accommodate without overwhelming you. We offer the most elegant matted albums in a sexy faux snake skin cover. Each 7x10 is displayed like the work of art that it is. (photos coming soon)

But I really want to give him a little black book type album!

Ahhh... for him. We haven't forgotten about the lucky guy.  We offer gift albums a la carte that are made from the best materials, but are perfectly portable or night-stand-hidable. This way you can get that booty shot for him and the supermodel  beauty shot for you.

Call our Albuquerque boudoir and glamour studio at 866-930-7060 or see more info & a calendar here.

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Why does mom always come last?

Recently my puppy (who isn't really a puppy anymore considering he's 11) got pretty much torn apart by a wild dog or coyote. Because he is my baby, I never had any doubt that I would do all that I could to save him, including draining my account and racking up the credit card debt. It was never even considered that I wouldn't spend everything I had (and some that I didn't) if it would save his life. After all, money is just money and there are always ways to earn more.  But I cannot lie, it stressed me out to see those bills and a $10 balance in my checking account. So I started thinking of ways to save money...

1. Cut out my gym membership
2. Stop getting my hair colored for a while
3. Sell my belongings

WTF!!! Guess what never occurred to me, cutting back on any of the extravagant things I do for my boys. After a long and rejuvenating run at the gym, I realized just how little I was loving myself (as a verb). I was willing to feel like a stressed out and unfit lady with stripper roots, but wasn't willing to not buy my kid every expensive snack option he desires.  Not that those are dollar for dollar comparisons, but let's face it... he can live without buying EVERY KIND OF CRACKER there is.

So, instead of doing any of those things, I focused on the positive. Being grateful that my puppy was on the mend and that all it took was money and some incredible doctors.  I also realized that I deserve things that make me feel good. God is generous and the universe is abundant; why would I need to sacrifice myself for a dog? And guess what... 3 weeks later... my debts are paid and I'm on the way to building up my accounts again.

So here's the takeaway, YOU ARE WORTH LOVING and you are worth showing the love. Take a moment to think about the things that make you feel good (and it can't have anything to do with sacrifice for others). Be grateful, then think of other ways to show yourself that you deserve nice things.

PS: This is Gus Gus... he's cute but a total asshole and REALLY lucky I'm his mom.

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